Free Tips To Keep the Romance Sizzling in Marriage
Posted: Monday, February 13, 2006
by Laura Trahan
Let’s face it. It seems the longer a couple is together, the more routine and stale a marriage becomes. During Valentine's Day, Americans focus on romance, but for many couples it is just another holiday that may warrant a kiss from each other before moving on to the busyness of life.
How sad is it that two people can go from complete togetherness, talking and dreaming every second about the future, to discussing the bills and not even knowing the other person has any dreams. Being discouraged, I decided to compile a list of things I have seen over the years really ignite passion and romance in the older couples I know. Valentine's Day is long gone, but you could still have a whole year of romance.
- Buy candles-a simple, inexpensive purchase that can change the mood of any ordinary, ritualistic evening. Light them at dinner time for a romantic meal, light them in the bedroom for a romantic rendezvous or enjoy a candlelit bubble bath just the two of you.
- Plan date nights-Unfortunately with kids, jobs and schedules, couples get too busy to even think about dates or spending time with the one you originally fell in love with. They can be simple or extravagant. Just make sure they are planned or the dates will never happen.
- Plan sex-While we are on the subject of planning, sex can be planned. Sex is a wonderful way for husbands and wives to express love for one another. But with kids and the busyness of life, sometimes if sex is not planned it can be months before a couple even has any intimacy.
- Spend the night away-When was the last time the two of you got away. Sometimes couples just need a change of environment to jumpstart that passion. It does not have to be another city. I have couple friends who just go down to the local hotel. Anything to get them out of the house, so they do not have to see the dirty laundry or dishes that have to be done.
- Leave love notes-These can be post-its left on the bathroom mirror that say something like “You are so beautiful, can’t wait to see you tonight" or just something little in the briefcase like “I am so proud of you, I am glad I am married to you."
- Make unexpected calls-Call your spouse just to say “I love you." Do not mention the kids or the bills. If you know they are having a big meeting or a hard day, call to wish them luck or to tell them you care.
- Finally, Flirt-flirt, flirt, flirt. I cannot say that enough. Why does the flirting have to stop because you are married? Ladies, there will always be women who flirt, make sure you are one of them when it comes to your husband. The same goes for men. Flirting makes a person feel irresistible. Hit your spouse on the backside, blow kisses, do a seductive smile, just what ever it takes to get the blood flowing.
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